Coupled With D&S

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Tag: etiquette

The Follow Up: Trouble Negotiating that Second Date

I have no problems getting the first date, but I seem to be striking out lately when it comes to getting the second date. Usually if I feel like the first date went well, I’ll ask if they’d like to get together again. They usually say yes when I ask them in person, but I often find that not to be true and we don’t end up meeting again. It varies how I follow up. Sometimes I’ll call, sometimes I’ll text. Which do you think most women prefer? It’s usually midweek the following week when I’ll contact them to see if they want to go out again. Is that too soon? I don’t think wanting to see someone the following week is too soon, but maybe I’m wrong. Lastly, I’ve been going by a hard rule that if they don’t get in touch with me after the first time I contact them, then I don’t bother. Is persistence the key here? I don’t want to come off as desperate or clingy when trying to get that second date. There’s gotta be some kind of fine line to walk there, right?”